Oh my gosh! This is what I mean when I say I lived a lie - but I did not live the lie. I really loved, I really needed love, I built a family. I was lied too, he lived the lie and fooled me and everybody else. I am not the liar!
The time just before we fully recover is the trickiest time for us, because it's the time when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.
Letting go isn't blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts and doesn't leave emptiness, hurt or sadness. Letting go isn't about loss and it's not defeat. To let go is to cherish memories, and overcome and move on.
Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame you for "having feelings." Abusive people do this