"Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny." Move past your hardships and prepare for the good things that come afterwards. Don't let your hardships jade you or blind you to the greatness that life is offering.
Do not waste time bothering whether you 'love' you neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this, we find one of the greatest secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him - C.S Lewis