If someone cheats on you, its okay if you dont stop loving him immediately. I felt like an idiot when my feelings for him didnt go away the moment I found out about the betrayal. I learned eventually that that was okay and I wasnt a failure of a woman for
Wish more people were like that, on the other end- I could never be the "other woman" either. I have too much self respect and dignity to ever harm another's relationship or another person like that- even if I didn't know the wife/gf.