there is always an agenda. wanting to help is an agenda. it just depends on whether you are seeking something only for yourself or for all involved. and, if you recognize that helping can be saying, "No." for the benefit of all.
"I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded; not with the fanfare of epiphany, but with pain gathering its things, packing up, and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night." - Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner
When God gives you a new beginning, it starts with an ending. Be thankful for closed doors. They often guide us to the right one! One door closed. Now I'm just waiting in the hall for the next one to open