"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the BULLSHIT story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it!" <--If you want a change bad enough, you'll set your mind to it and aspire to reach that goal/change/outcome!
Love yourself first! And if you don't love yourself, learn how. You can't give or receive love until you learn how to love yourself first! And when you love yourself, it is easy to recognize the people who really love you and those who don't.