effort is a reflection of interest & you can't force them to see that you're worth it. be wise enough not to waste your time, patient enough not to settle, & strong enough not to force it. whatever is meant to be will be.
"You didn't love her. You didn't want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe she was just good for your ego. Or, or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life, but you didn't love her. Because you don't destroy people you love" - Grey's Anatomy
BEYOND TRAUMA GROUP This is what it feel like to be with a Narcissist. You constantly have to have your guard up to avoid all attacks. Your survival instincts kicks in, and you will do anything to protect yourself from Narcissistic Abuse.
We end up in toxic relationships because we don't stand up for ourselves early on when red flags occur. At some point you have to develop healthy barriers for how you're going to be treated; you're responsible for your experience, nobody else is.