"Do not handicap your children by making their lives easy." - Robert A. Heinlein My parents made sure that I could take care of my own, stuff wasn't handed to me. I see kids today, and worry not only for their future but for mine as well.
"I don't want to look back on my life in twenty years and realize that I wasted the precious time I had with my children by living in a state of perpetual distraction." A GREAT post about being an undivided mom.
Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants. People shouldn't pretend they are the best parent when someone else is raising their child