Hard to do for someone who over-analyzes EVERYTHING! But its important to get this straight in your head. You can move past the surface and try to understand the deeper workings of someone elses actions when you take yourself out of the equation.
"She has a quiet confidence that screams loud. She is humble, but strong. She is stable, but rebellious. She is giving, but not naive. She chooses her battles wisely. She'll stay silent until its time to fight.and when that time comes; FIGHT she does"