This I have had to learn in the most difficult ways, thoughtless naivete! I like to mend the fences I may have damaged at times unaware, and I have tried so hard to make my apologies and chased my own tail in doing so, to no avail..only hurt, dismay and confusion and some distructive behavior from others! I was taught to try and make the wrongs right and the lack of empathy and unresolve these days can be at best bewildering! This ref. is of loves, family and friends...