"Would you like you, if you met you?" If the answer is yes then you are living the life you should be. If the answer is no, then you have some thing to think about changing cause your asking for more than yourself.
It isn't fair when you know a simple thought from them could rearrange you. All that remains is the hope that somewhere along the way you discarded a stronger more vivacious version of yourself. A fragment to be called upon when you have nothing left.