You can always pick out insecure people, by listening to how many backhanded compliments and subtle insults they hand out. The people who try and act like they have it all together are usually the biggest messes! So true.
if you can't be kind, be quiet. If only people remember that in the "HEAT" of the moment. When we were young, we were told just about the same thing. "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"