So, how many times have you had someone yell at you about bout not judging them? What do they mean by the whole don’t judge me? How do you not be judgmental? You cant What is actually happening people don’t want to be told they are out of step. They don’t want to be told they are wrong. It is a double standard It is a lot like how women want to dress nicely to attract the guys they find attractive but get mad when the normal guy finds them attractive.